Love Jones
I sat and watched the movie "Love Jones" all the way through for the first time yesterday. I was slightly irritated while watching this film. It wasn't a fairy-tale at all and maybe that's why I didn't like it. The story-line was way too real and probably had similar situations to many of our dating relationships. There were so many ups and downs.... nothing in life is really the way movies, books, reality shows , etc. portray them to be. Now, I'm not trying to dissect the movie and what I liked or disliked, but there is something I do want to address.
I HATE the games played between the characters due to their desire to protect their hearts. The reason neither character remained truthful to their feelings or expressed themselves freely was due to a stupid "game". He didn't want to seem overly sprung and she wanted to test his loyalty. Therefore, they both played games with each other resulting in the exact thing they feared, a broken heart. They continued in this spiral only to in the end, find their way back to each other because they were "meant to be".
Ok, so.. by all means protect your heart. This is in the word, "Above all else guard your heart for out of it flows the wellspring of life." Proverbs 4, is not the only place God ask us to guard our heart. He says this quite a few times in the bible, which is a big deal to me. It means the heart is something WE are capable of guarding, destroying, giving away, or protecting. Whatever we choose to do with our heart is up to us. Now, how can we guard our heart without playing games? I must admit I have played a few, but I think its time for a change. People are the most important thing in life. Life has no purpose without healthy relationships. From family and friends to work relationships, they are all so important. Why don't we take more responsibility in how we treat those we date.
I think there are four ways to protect the heart w/o games.
1. FIND YOUR PURPOSE.
Be sure of why you're with someone. Do you want a friend, a fun times partner, a boyfriend, or an extra member of your 'team'? This can ease confusion if you set in your mind and heart why a person is around.
2. PUT AWAY YOUR PRIDE.
Don't fear being embarrassed. Tell the truth, whether you are scared, petrified, or worried about the outcome. The times I feared being honest and remained honest anyway were the most beneficial. I received information that was much needed and was able to stay or move on as needed.
3.STOP LISTENING TO FOOLISH FRIENDS.
If your friends have terrible dating records and make plenty of decisions that make you cringe stop seeking their advice! Find friends that give advice that comes from a place of wisdom. You can make WAY better decisions when you have good positive friends around you.
4.PRAY AND LISTEN.
GOD IS THE BEST PERSON TO SEEK ADVICE FROM. (WE HAVE NOT BECAUSE WE ASK NOT!) PRAY AND ASK GOD IF SOMEONE IS WORTH YOUR TIME. YOU CAN DEFINITELY SKIP OUT ON HEART BREAK AND OTHER UNNECESSARY PROBLEMS IF YOU PRAY...and then LISTEN.
Love you,
Gabby <3
Lookout for the male advice on this topic which will be posted soon....
I HATE the games played between the characters due to their desire to protect their hearts. The reason neither character remained truthful to their feelings or expressed themselves freely was due to a stupid "game". He didn't want to seem overly sprung and she wanted to test his loyalty. Therefore, they both played games with each other resulting in the exact thing they feared, a broken heart. They continued in this spiral only to in the end, find their way back to each other because they were "meant to be".
Ok, so.. by all means protect your heart. This is in the word, "Above all else guard your heart for out of it flows the wellspring of life." Proverbs 4, is not the only place God ask us to guard our heart. He says this quite a few times in the bible, which is a big deal to me. It means the heart is something WE are capable of guarding, destroying, giving away, or protecting. Whatever we choose to do with our heart is up to us. Now, how can we guard our heart without playing games? I must admit I have played a few, but I think its time for a change. People are the most important thing in life. Life has no purpose without healthy relationships. From family and friends to work relationships, they are all so important. Why don't we take more responsibility in how we treat those we date.
I think there are four ways to protect the heart w/o games.
1. FIND YOUR PURPOSE.
Be sure of why you're with someone. Do you want a friend, a fun times partner, a boyfriend, or an extra member of your 'team'? This can ease confusion if you set in your mind and heart why a person is around.
2. PUT AWAY YOUR PRIDE.
Don't fear being embarrassed. Tell the truth, whether you are scared, petrified, or worried about the outcome. The times I feared being honest and remained honest anyway were the most beneficial. I received information that was much needed and was able to stay or move on as needed.
3.STOP LISTENING TO FOOLISH FRIENDS.
If your friends have terrible dating records and make plenty of decisions that make you cringe stop seeking their advice! Find friends that give advice that comes from a place of wisdom. You can make WAY better decisions when you have good positive friends around you.
4.PRAY AND LISTEN.
GOD IS THE BEST PERSON TO SEEK ADVICE FROM. (WE HAVE NOT BECAUSE WE ASK NOT!) PRAY AND ASK GOD IF SOMEONE IS WORTH YOUR TIME. YOU CAN DEFINITELY SKIP OUT ON HEART BREAK AND OTHER UNNECESSARY PROBLEMS IF YOU PRAY...and then LISTEN.
Love you,
Gabby <3
Lookout for the male advice on this topic which will be posted soon....