God, I Need a Man (Valentine’s Day Blog)
When Instagram released its version of Twitter called Threads, it was in perfect timing. For those of us millennials who shaped Black Twitter, we truly had a time on that app as a community. After Twitter was sold, the new owner ruined the algorithms, and, honestly, the vibes were also disturbed. Threads, for many of us, has been the best replacement. The algorithm is easier to curate, and right now, it's easy to find your tribe. Recently, the algorithm has been sending some interesting Christian content my way. In the last few weeks, I can't tell you how many times I have seen threads from Christian women on dating and marriage. There have been so many posts with women praying for their future husbands, wishing they were not single, or talking about their thoughts on idolizing marriage. I am glad women are expressing this. I believe the more you are honest about wanting a healthy relationship, the more you can welcome one into your life. As I see a generation of women crying out, “God, I need a man!” I am reminded that when God hears the hearts of many on a matter, He has already provided an answer before the request is even made.
There is nothing wrong with desiring love and marriage! God placed the desire there.
The Bible says:
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:10 If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone 12 Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
Marriage on earth represents God’s love and covenant with us spiritually. The issue is I can see many women speaking openly about desiring men, but I don’t see the same energy or the same number of men proclaiming their desire for commitment to women. Many are asking God, “What’s up with the men of the world?” If God loves marriage covenants, why is it so hard for solid relationships to form? Why is the institution of marriage no longer a solid foundation in our culture? Then, it hit me. Of course, what God loves, darkness tries to taint. If godly covenants are ministry and exemplify God's love for us in a tangible form, of course, the enemy desires to pervert it. He perverts love and relationships through culture. Culture doesn’t promote harmonious, healthy, God-filled unions. It promotes selfishness, lots of frivolous sex, and, of course, many ways to run from commitment. Yet, when men prioritize God, they eventually develop a strong desire for marriage because God will highlight it. They realize they can go further in all aspects of life with one woman. We love to quote the verse, “He that finds a wife finds a good thing and finds favor from the Lord,” therefore, we need to keep praying for the revival of men going out to find their wives!
While we pray, God truly does work behind the scenes.
I remember my dad shared with me when he was young; he thought he’d be a bachelor for a long time. Then, he joined a church where strong marriages were not only seen but supported by the church community. As he began to grow closer to God, he felt a nudge from the Holy Spirit that it was time to meet his wife. With a willing heart, he obeyed that nudge and began to put himself in spaces where he felt he’d meet his wife. He saw my mom at a church event and knew she was the one. They’ve been married for 34 years now.
While women are working, waiting, growing, and praying, we can trust that God is working on the hearts of men. My Instagram timeline is filled with engagements and weddings, and my hope is that there are many more! May goldy marriages increase and build God's kingdom. There is nothing wrong with saying, “God, I need a man!” Genesis 2:18 states, “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” I pray that God grants your heart’s desires.
Prayer for you: May God prepare your destiny spouse, and may your union not delay! May every hindrance to your God-ordained marriage be revealed and removed. May healing and wholeness take place in your life for you and in the life of your future partner so that your love is not clouded by toxic behaviors but is reinforced with healed emotions and healthy mindsets. I pray the HolySpirit leads your relationship and that God is always at the center. May integrity, faithfulness, joy, peace, passion, and harmony fill your marriage. May God be glorified in your lives, individually and collectively. I pray that your love lasts forever. In Jesus name, Amen.
Declaration (Say Out Loud):
Marriage is my portion.
God has a great partner designed specifically for me.
I am ready for love.
I am ready for marriage.
Thank you, God, for preparing me to be a great spouse.
In any areas where I am not ready, I am not seeking perfection, but I welcome growth.
Lord, I receive the Kingdom marriage you have for me.
Scripture Meditation: Matthew 19:4-6 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Love,
Gab
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